After viewing Facebook today with all the negativity, these are things everyone should do (and, yes, I need to take my own advice)….
One: Thank the Goddess you are alive and breathing. You were given another day. Use it wisely. Don’t squander it. Don’t wish harm on others. For that matter, don’t wish on others what you wouldn’t want wished on yourself—in the blink of an eye, you could be gone. You are not guaranteed tomorrow.
Two: Practice kindness, empathy, and compassion wherever you go. Everyone is fighting an internal battle you cannot imagine. Some people are really good at hiding their thoughts, emotions, and tears… only to show them when things get seriously tough or when they’re about to break. Don’t think that they’re strong all the time. No one ever is.
Three: Let go of what you cannot control or what you cannot change. This one is big. BIG. This is every over-thinker’s Achilles Heel. This includes but is not limited to love, friendship, judgment, and hate. You cannot control whom you love, how long you are friends, lovers, or when things will change in your relationships—this is the hardest for people to accept. I’m guilty myself; I try to save them all. Whether you are in that person’s life still or not, love is love. I fight every day with my own thoughts to understand why things didn’t work out in the past with people I love and will love until I die. It doesn’t change how they feel. Love them anyway. You’ll be better for it. You’ll understand and handle emotional pain. You’ll love more deeply too.
Four: Listen to your heart—and wear it on your sleeve. Often. In the last six years, I’ve discovered that love can come and go repeatedly. It hurts. It sucks. And it feels, seems, like it will never get better. It does. No matter who you love, you cannot make someone love you, nor should you want to. You’ll love again. Or maybe you won’t. Maybe you’ll only love this one person and never fall in love again. It doesn’t matter. Live with your heart on your sleeve anyway. Sometimes you can’t even begin to understand how or why things go wrong. And you’ll question it for years. That’s okay. Love them until the day you die. Sometimes it feels selfish to want to get a second or third or fourth chance at love. Once seems like enough when some souls in this big old world don’t even get one chance.
Five: You’ll feel lonely. Remain calm, because this will pass. Time changes things. Life changes. Feelings change. “Everything dies baby, that’s a fact. But maybe everything that dies some day comes back.” (Lyric by Bruce Springsteen.) Change is the only constant.
Six: Breathe. Breathe. Breathe.
© 2017 Crystal Heidel